Fashion and beauty trends come and go, and there’s some we wish to go and never to return again! There is a term “nothing exceeds like excess”.  Well in the case of these trends, some of us could take or leave them.

1. Bad Weaves.  If you can’t grow it sew it is an appropriate sentiment for some. But let’s face it, the bad weaves have run their course.  More women are opting for natural styles and taking better care of our hair. So why is the fake hair industry still a billion dollar business that is dominated by non-blacks? Perhaps because some of us are not comfortable in our own skin. Weaves used to go undetectable, now they stick out like sore thumbs. If you’re going the weave route, just make sure you don’t overdo it.

2. Fake Eyelashes. Rolls eyes. The “baby-doll” eyelashes are the ugliest of them all. You know the ones that were on those dolls that stood in the corner of your great-aunt’s living room with the eyes that roll back? Oh wait, that’s my story…Anywho, the eyeslashes should complement not overpower your eyes. Select a lash that looks natural and flattering.

3. Acrylic Nails. I didn’t know people still paid for these. Acrylic nails are not only played out, they’re a catalyst for bacteria and fungus. If you still can’t let go of your acrylics, maybe it’s time to choose a gel nail and pop some Biotin capsules to get your own nails to grow.

4. Fake Designer Handbags. If you and three of your friends are all rocking Gucci bags at the same time, chances are you bought them in the parking lot at the same time. Fakes are never in fashion. And trust me, you can tell the difference.

5. Basketball Wives Style Earrings. Yes they are cute, but now even the corner store is selling them. Not only are some of the earrings over-the-top, they are damaging people’s ears and there’s nothing fashionable about that.  Don’t get me wrong i love some of those fabulous earrings and even own a couple of pairs. But still we have to be careful not to overdo it. If you’re wearing the big earrings, leave the jangling bracelets and multiple necklaces at home.  Hopefully after the summer their appeal will die down and some of you can reclaim your earlobes.

6. Leggings as pants. Sorry, but some of you bad built, pancake, camel-toe having ladies should NEVER wear leggings as pants. We don’t need to see all your flaws and despite what what’s-his-name told you, they do not look good. Please keep the shirts over your derriere if you dare to continue this trend.

7. Tattoos. Yes, tattoos are fashionable, hey I have a few. But when you’re bored, it is not time to go and get a new tattoo. Hideous mistakes are made on impulse and boredom and make one’s thought process seemingly non-existent. And remember, it’ll hurt more to remove your tattoo mistake.

8. Frosted Eye Makeup. Are you a cake or a lady? If your make up makes you look like a clown, it’s time to save the frosting for the kids birthday parties.

9. Barbie Necklaces. Another corner store hot-seller. If you don’t look like a real Barbie doll, please stop wearing the Barbie jewelry. Last time I checked Barbie didn’t have a Michelin man stomach or a butt with the circumference of a small planet. Some trends just need to stop.

10. Super Glossy Lips. Gloss is not made to make you look like your lips are patent leather–or as my friend likes to say, jellyfish lips! Just a dab is fine. And please, please, please, please, no black lipliner.

 

You’ve seen her, she comes into work with those short skirts, those deep-v, cleavage exposing tops, and those tight pants that show every inch of her right down to the panty line, but is she YOU?

The workplace is not the place for being sexy. Yes there are those women who have showed some leg, or thigh, or (you get the picture) a little something else to “sweeten a deal”. But don’t let appearances fool you. Just because you show your ass, it does not make you an asset.

With women leading the workplace, dominating half of the workforce altogether, it’s clear that some of us are getting there on our own merit. We are leaders of powerful companies, entrepreneurs and such, genuinely paving our own way.

But what about the woman who is trying to move up the ladder by giving the powers-that-be a real glimpse of her, and I’m not talking about personality. These are the women we loathe in the workplace, and yes, you “office hoochies” we do talk about you behind your back and we are not the only ones. Men notice it too. But if you’re not sure if you’re sending the wrong message at work, here’s a few ways to tell:

1. You get “the look” from women, and the “double take” from men. Women are looking at you because they’re thinking, “No she didn’t.” And the men are saying, “Thank goodness she did”. But don’t be surprised if you are harassed at some point because the boys think you were “asking for i”.

2. When you stoop or bend, you hear fabric ripping at the seams. Yes hun, your clothes are too tight. Go a size up or try staying away from all that fried chicken. There is nothing cute about a woman busting out of her clothes.

3. Your tops and blouses show to much cleavage. If you look in the mirror and you can see the slit between your breasts or the top of the mounds, you’re probably showing too much. Cover up and invest in a better bra that doesn’t have you spilling out all over the place.

4. The hem of your skirt barely touches your thigh. Uh no ma’am. You are not on a corner, you are in a place of business. Bring it down, way down. Try finding a skirt that’s just above your knee, or a just below it, but don’t dress like a cheerleader.

5. People see-through your garments. Sheer tops, skirts, halter tops, tank tops and the like are not work wear. No one wants to look through your clothes, and you shouldn’t want them do either. Save the sheer for the bedroom and the halters for a summer a Bottom line, it says you aren’t professional. Unless you’re wearing something with something else beneath it and a jacket over it, avoid sheer altogether.

6. The world can see your undergarments, or lack therof. You know those women, the ones who wear the grandma panties with the fitted pants, the thong that climbs up their back and sticks out from the low-rise slacks, the panty lines that show clear through their fitted dresses and skirt, the ones with the “cottage cheese” thighs who jingle like jelly every time they pass. The ones who do not look at their behinds in the mirror. In the age of Spanx and other like undergarments, there is no excuse for inappropriate shapewear. Whether you shop at Target or Neiman Marcus, shapewear is readily available to ensure that you do not make an a** of yourself, pun intended. Nothing is worse than seeing a woman who almost has it together. Do our eyes a favor, invest in the right undergarments ladies.

If you’ve been reprimanded for dressing inappropriately or know you’re dressing inappropriately, work on changing your image. You don’t want to be branded the office floozy, once you get that title, it’ll be hard to shake it. Let your work speak for you, not your clothes. Always dress appropriately in professional environments.

What is appropriate attire? Suits, sheath dresses, collared shirts, skirts that fall at or just below-the-knee, tailored pants. You get the picture. Your physical appearance  is the first thing people notice, don’t you want to give the right impression?

Andrea Hoffman in ruffles at the Jaguar Diversity Affluence Brunch Series.

Clothes get pretty with ruffles.

Ruffles have ridges. From the runways of designers like  Hugo Boss, Givenchy, Elie Tahari,  and of course, the king Valentino,  ruffles are stealing the scene for fall.

Always ladylike, ruffle detail gives garments an expensive, luxe look. Designers are adorning everything from dresses to trench coats, creating more feminine silhouettes for fall.

Gap and Banana Republic have used the blouse as a canvas to add ruffles, while White House Black Market is selling a sleek new leather jacket with ruffle detail. The Limited has a great selection of tops with ruffles as well, perfect for the price conscious fashionistas.

If you’re looking for a fresh twist on fall’s new looks, adorn your wardrobe with ruffles for a winning look.

Were they stylish…or not?

Melyssa could stand to lose the shades.

When one attends a style suite, it is best to be “in-style”. But of course as with any dress code, there are always a few people who don’t get the memo. Apparently many of the guests at the 2010 Espy Awards Style Suite, held at the SLS Hotel and hosted by the Maxi Wade Agency were among that group. And the word “model” should be used sparingly if your style doesn’t fit the bill. Note to aspiring whatevers, the red carpet is your cue to look good or go home.

How to dress for Summer Gloom

Okay, so all my Cali residents have been suffering from some cooler than usual Summer weather. I know, I know 73 degrees is gloom? Well for Cali babies…Yes. What I have noticed as a result is the wardrobe decisions my fashionistas have been choosing. Now, I am all for breaking bounderies and rebelling against the 1950’s fashion rules. You know, the shoes, the belt, and the purse have to match. No! Or no white after Labor Day…Says who?! I will even go for suede shoes in the summer.

However, there is just something I can’t shake…Boots in the Summer. SMH.  Ladies…Ladies, boots are definitely sexy. Don’t get me wrong, the thigh highs with minis or skinny jeans under some calve lengths… for sure!!! But boots in the Summer is a No-No. Store ‘em away for next Fall ladies. Oh, and put the opaque tights with them too…Sorry! I know you have been comfortable with the trend for a few months in the Fall and Winter season, but it’s time to let it go. Don’t fret though, I have some equally trendy and cozy substitutes for a gloomy summer.

Layers: Layers have proven to be more than a lifesaver for me many times. Who knew what moms used to do to us for long days out as kids, would still hold fast as adults.

Cardigans: Lightweight sweaters that serve as an accessory as well as a fashion statement. You can change buttons, paint designs, or go for a traditional classic look. Who better to set an example but our First Lady Michelle Obama.

Booties: Booties are very acceptable for Summer days (w/out the tights).Try the cutout Booties for something fresh. I suggest you keep the dark colors for the p.m. and rock the colorful and lighter ones for daytime.

As I said I am all for being a fashion rebel. If you are a street biker or a cowgirl, rock your Summer boots. If not put them in the back of the closet, under the bed, or something. Somewhere you can’t see them. Out of site…out of mind! However, when it comes down to it, wear whatever you want whenever you want. Fashion is all about statements and being yourself!

*This week: Do you….cuz I’m gonna do me!*

Shay Couture

“I’m no fashion expert…but I like to think I know what I’m talking about!”

Ever see somebody in a fabulous outfit from the front, then they turn around and you’re like, “WTH?”

The key to looking fabulous from all angles is to make sure you look good from behind first. This means finding undergarments that are appropriate for your attire. When you’re wearing fitted pants consider a thong or a pair of  mid-thigh shapers. A fitted dress should always have a smooth appearance.  Mid-thigh shapers or body-shaping slips provide a smooth finish for even the tightest garments. If you’re wearing something sheer, try a nude shade undergarment depending on the dress color.

The importance of looking good from behind is all about looking in the mirror before you leave the house. If you leave the house went dents, lumps, and bumps in the back, either you don’t own a mirror, didn’t look in it, or don’t have friends and family who love you! Friends don’t let friends go out with lumps!

For those of you have a little jelly a.k.a. cellulite, you definitely need to find an undergarment that works with your attire. I remember sitting behind a well-known actress at an award show only to see that beneath her dress (and it wasn’t even fitted), she had more bumps in the road than Mulholland Drive! Can you say SPANX!

But shapewear is not limited to what’s on top, wearing the appropriate upper-body shapewear is important too. Bra straps peeking out from undergarments are not very stylish. They ruin your whole look. Try a strapless bra or wear pasties if you don’t want the appearance of bra lines.

Don’t ever think you don’t need smoothing undergarments, especially if you have a little more curves than the rest of us. If you don’t want to spend a lot of money on shapewear, visit a store like Target whose collection of shapewear is just as good as any department store’s with recession friendly prices. People do notice your rear end flaws and yes, they will talk about you. It is not cute!